Sunday, September 18, 2011
Momma, WHERE IS MY DADDY???
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Keith "Ink Heart" Wrencher
Momma, Where is MY DADDY??
By Warren K. Wrencher Jr.
July 15, 2011
I want to first stress how ALL of a parent's decisions IMPACT their child/children. When a child asks you, with such innocence, "Momma, where is my daddy?", many women go into an immediate defensive state and cause more damage than she is aware of. This is the moment that so much good can be done. Most women simply blow the opportunity, and find themselves dealing with a monster that they created! The first question among many is... How should a woman handle that situation???
Let’s break this situation down to the original question. "Momma...” Your child has recognized your role in his life. So there is NO need for you to defend who you are, if you have been washing his clothes, cooking, housing, and cleaning his behind. As soon as the child says "WHERE...” Something is triggered inside the momma!!! All of the long and lonely nights, arguments and despair arise at the SAME time! Here is what really has happened: The child is aware enough and has enough respect in you to feel SAFE asking you something personal. (digest that for a second) Instead of asking in a complaint type fashion, he asked in a submissive fashion. Next...."Momma, where is MY...” Ooooh this little rascal has taking OWNERSHIP towards you! Most women subconsciously hear BLAME, and start getting an adult attitude towards a child. She hears "So what did you do to run my daddy away???" (Uh oh...let's pause while I ignore all the crazy looks) NOW if he sounds like he has ANY attitude, you are geared to rip anyone's head off! INSTEAD, treat this as though you have won the lottery!!!! Here is YOUR opportunity to plant a seed that will bear unseasoned fruit, in a single parent home! Sit him down and TEACH the type of MAN that he should be. Teach him what to do and the ways of the Lord. *all personal mistakes set aside* He is basically begging you to show him the right paths to go, and hinging on the way your words are delivered! However you react to him could determine the attitude that he has towards you, and his views of his father as a man, as well as fatherhood. You can build a productive adult, who is determined to not do what his sperm-donor has done to him. That's when it becomes important to FIND a mentoring group, or even a church. Honestly, all you can do is keeping drilling in him the reasons why he should be a good man, EVERY single DAY! Get him to the point that he starts making plans to be different!
A young boy, that I mentor, had an attitude with me. I asked him plainly "WHERE IS YOUR DADDY? Call him. It is time for you to understand your responsibility to your family and siblings. Stop riding that victim train, suck it up and let God lead you to being a REAL man. Then I gave him a hug and showed him what a real man does. Many women feel like men just don't care. This doesn't apply to ALL men, which is why I posting this.
Keith Ink-Heart Wrencher
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PRIVACY & TRUST
By Warren K. Wrencher Jr.
8/25/2011
As a man, I have certain personal rules and principles. One rule is that I don't EVER go through a woman's purse, cell phone, texts, cell phone bill, email and may not open her postal mail. This isn't because of trust, it is much deeper than that!!! Much deeper...I will explain...
I see and hear the extent that people go to guarantee trust. LMBO! Are you kidding me?! I am dealing with a GROWN woman, not a child. I recognize my own short comings and sincerely try to improve each day. I don't EVER want her to feel that she has to look over her shoulder. I love enough to let go, if I am not what a person needs! That being said, I never want to give her the feeling of guilt, when there is innocence. Why do you think people lose out on love? They force their presence and principles upon those they love. For me, yeah I am different, I believe in love reciprocation. Best believe, what you speak into your universe usually comes to past. Think about this, why do people think they can forced someone to commit to him/her, with the threat of catching them???? Men, women are smarter than you think! PLEASE repeat that to yourself. Now some of you are going on your instincts, and find yourself in all of this drama...blah blah blah. If I EVER have to play detective, why in the HELL will I want to live as such a relationship??? Now this is MY personal rule and principle. I see people losing sleep; I sleep good at night. I hear about people buying software and paying private investigators...blah blah blah. That's isn't how LOVE should be! There is a thought in my 2nd book that says "Who do women think that their intuition is correct, when they are full of inhibitions?" (My Secret Conscience)
Insecurity is an relationship KILLER! No matter the reason for it or the source, insecurity will plague your life and could cause you to question every motive and move. Word of advice: You can't make anybody be what you want them to be. Stop thinking that you can SAVE and change people. As a homeless man once told me, "Only God can change people". That was the best advice, that I never asked for, given by a stranger. That's my spill for today, be blessed!
~Keith Ink-Heart Wrencher
BAB Book Club Embraces Ink-Heart
On September 17, 2011, I presented my books "Life Love Whatever" and "My Secret Conscience" to the BAB Book Club of Bessemer, Alabama. This was my first oportunity to present my work to a group of individuals. I have distributed my books, to nearly 600 hundred individuals, but I was a bit nervous at first. 
This book club has been around for about 5 years, and has traveled to meet other authors. They were very good host, and made me feel at home. This could not have been timed any better; I have an interview with G D Grace.(A Touch of Grace Interview with Keith Ink-Heart Wrencher www.blogtalkradio.com
Tune in on Friday 9/23/11 at 100pm as A Touch of Grace interviews the fiery provocative author known as Keith Ink-Heart Wrencher.) Excerpt from a forthcoming Sep 23, this coming Friday.)
Preparation is key, and these ladies aided me in preparing. As I establish my own path to my destiny, I believe that this book club has laid the first brick. I thank God for them and for things to come.
BAB Book Club....THANK YOU!
Keith "Ink-Heart" Wrencher (9/18/2011)
For more information on this book club, go to http://www.babclub.blogspot.co
Generational Curses
*Previously Posted on my Free Sprech Friday via facebook*
FREE SPEECH FRIDAY
By Warren Wrencher
(facebook) Keith Ink-Heart Wrencher
July 22, 2011
Let’s define what a Generational Curse is.
“ According to Don Rogers, GENERATIONAL CURSES are judgments that are passed on to individuals because of sins perpetuated in a family in a number of generations. Generational curses are similar to original sin curses because they can be passed down on a generational basis. They differ in that generational curses do not impose eternal judgment. They bring judgment or bondage during an individual's life, reducing the quality of life, until that individual addresses the sin issues that put the curses into place.
Original accounts of this can be dated back to the biblical times with Moses in Leviticus 26:39-42. “…curses take away the quality of life. They can bring failure, shame, sickness and even physical death. They are temporal in nature, causing much grief. They are administered to get our attention and encourage us to turn back to God. Those who are humbled by them repent and find restoration and renewed freedom from the Lord. Those who become angry, self-righteous and rebel against what God has permitted, and thus remain unrepentant, go deeper into bondage and darkness.”
Now we understand what a generational curse is, we fast forward to begin our discussion. This is a serious subject matter, and in my research I am came across this article.
Have you ever seen a family where the father has a problem with uncontrollable anger, his son seems to have been 'handed it', and the grandpa had the same problem? Or have you noticed that not only do you suffer from something such as persistent irrational fears or depression, but your mother and her father also suffered from it as well? There are many people today who are living under bondage that the sins of their forefathers have brought them under.
Exodus 34:7, "Keeping mercy for thousands, forgiving iniquity and transgression and sin, and that will by no means clear the guilty; visiting (punishing) the iniquity of the fathers upon the children, and upon the children's children, unto the third and to the fourth generation."
Lamentations 5:7, "Our fathers have sinned, and are not; and we have borne (been punished for) their iniquities."
This is beyond learned behavior; many children learn to be messy if their parents are messy. This is a spiritual bondage that is passed down from one generation to another. Some symptoms of a generational curse is a continual negative pattern of something being handed down from generation to generation. Often people who are adopted end up with the same characteristics as their birth parents, not because they were around their birth parents to learn how they behaved, but because they inherited their spiritual bondage. Some common symptoms of generational curses are family illnesses that seem to just walk from one person down to the next (cancer is a common physical manifestation of a spiritual bondage), continual financial difficulties (they continually hit roadblocks in their finances), mental problems, persistent irrational fears and depression. Anything that seems to be a persistent struggle or problem that was handed down from one generation to another may very well be a generational curse.
SO What is the purpose of the Generational Curse?
“I believe the reason God would punish the future generations with the sins of their fathers, is because of God's bitter hatred for sin. He would require somebody who practiced witchcraft to be put to death (Exodus 22:18). He knows that one of the most prized possessions you have, is your children, and therefore it makes sin a lot harder to commit when you realize that you are not the only one that is being punished for it, but also your own children are going to pay the price for your foolishness. That's what I believe is the reason behind generational curses. The whole human race fell thanks to Adam's sin for that matter.”
'Triggering' the effects of a generational curse
It is possible for demons to enter a child before he accepts Jesus, then remain dormant or hidden in that child's life until some time later in his or her life when it manifests (or makes itself known). Sometimes when a person heads for the ministry, it seems like the devil kicks up his ugly heels and causes havoc for that person. Other times, a line of fear runs in the family tree, but isn't manifested in a person's life until they get themselves involved in something fearful, such as watching a demonic movie. All of a sudden, the spirits in that person's life "come alive" so to speak, and make themselves known. They were there all along, but just now they have come out into the open. The solution is to cast them out.
If you have involved yourself in any sin or opened any doors in your own life while 'awaking' or triggering the spirits, then it's important that you clear up any legal grounds (or strongholds) that you gave the enemy in your own life relating to the bondage. For example, if you have went to see a demonic movie, and it seemed to have triggered spirits of fear in your life that were handed down to you, then it's important to repent for going to see such a movie before trying to cast out any spirits. It's also possible that you picked up the spirits from such a movie without them even being there in the first place, and/or added to spirits that were already inside you. It's always a good idea to clear up any legal grounds or strongholds in your own life before casting spirits out.
I believe unforgiveness is a great way to 'trigger' generational spirits, so I would be on the lookout for any bitterness or unforgiveness in your heart as well. A common sight is when a spirit of cancer is running down the family tree, and I believe bitterness is a great way to trigger those spirits. Unforgiveness is a serious sin that blocks the forgiveness of your own sins (Matthew 6:15), which creates ample legal grounds for the enemy in your life. Unforgiveness in itself puts us into the enemy's hands.”
NOW... my two cents: Are you a generational curse? Are you cursing your children or are you blessing them? We all have things that we are battling everyday; it isn’t always pleasant in reality-ville. Until we start giving some real thought, not just thought, but making adjustments to our choices, we will always be prisoners our circumstances. So what your daddy is jail for murder, that doesn’t mean you have to go down the same path. So what you don’t know your daddy, make sure your children know theirs. If you are having babies by men, who master the disappearing act, don’t fret. You should plant new seeds into your children's lives. Stop spending more time working on you and neglecting the children that God has given YOU. MEN, if you aren't stepping up and raising your children, YOU ARE A CURSE UNTO YOUR CHILDREN! We better wake up and realize what we are doing. We all have choices to make everyday, and we do the best that we can. If I decide to abandon my daughters totally, what curse am I placing on their life? I have just shifted the universe that they live in and created a situation that their self-worth is now in question. How hard of a time will they have trusting men, when they can’t trust their own daddy??? How do you stop generational curses? Start taking responsibility for every choice that you make, because here are the truths. Our sins are passed down into our children and families. Life is a constant force that moves and shifts with our choices. If you do nothing, the universe still shifts. So if we have such impact on the universe, why not attempt to make it positive? If you mother was not there, why choose a woman that cares about herself only, to mother your seeds? If nobody went to college in your family, why not be the first? If your daddy gave you 15 sisters, that don’t live with you, that is a curse. Don’t use your family history as an excuse to NOT DO BETTER!
OUR FAMILY STRUCTURE IS UNDER ATTACK! Now, are you opening the gates for the enemy or ARE gearing up to stand guard? You don't have to be a perfect person to be a productive person. Let start praying off these curses off of our families. It is never too late to STEP UP! I repeat "IT IS NEVER TOO LATE TO STEP UP!" I am far from perfect, but I want to create and SPEAK prosperity into my family's universe. Ask yourself "What do I speak?" "Am I the CURSE in my family???" Once we stop being so selfish, it will be so amazing how much prosperity navigates throughout our lives. I could go on, but as always....I LOVE YOU AND WISH MANY BLESSINGS UPON YOUR LIFE! ~INK-HEART
When Child Support Isn't Enough!
*Previously Posted on my Free Speech Friday Discussions*
When Child Support Isn't Enough By: Warren Wrencher
August 19, 2011
I realize that relationships don't always pan out and life often deals a bad hand. But the truth is that we make our own choices. When the judicial courts order a seed donor (father) to pay a set amount for his children, this is beginning of a lot of things, or often is the only way a child knows of his father. This isn't fair to the child, who gets caught in the cross fire of disputing adults. When "some" men pay child support, they feel that this is a justifiable substitute for not spending time with a child. Quite honestly, some women make it difficult for the man. Now, I know that this isn't popular with some women, but it is the truth. If the man moves on with his life, some women get bitter, when she is still in love with him. She will make his life hell, and the children suffer. Back to the question or topic, "When Child Support Isn't Enough". I see women saying "Happy Father's Day" each other. YOU ARE NOT A FATHER! YOU are a very special woman! Stop fooling yourself, just to elevate the personal image and perception of yourself. I remember my mother saying that all she wanted was my father to spend time with my brother and me. She placed her values in the time, instead of the money. My father paid child support and was on us like white on rice. Once when he lost his job, she didn't want him to stop coming around because lack of the money. He paid what he could and was our FATHER. Now let’s be truthful and digest a bit of reality. Sometimes the child support just isn't enough, when the child is active OR the father doesn't make much money. Then we have the men, who duck and dodge ANY job not paying under the table. We are being REAL here! It happens. The beef that I have is when a mother, receiving child support, uses ANY portion of that to pay HER bills.
I realize that relationships don't always pan out and life often deals a bad hand. But the truth is that we make our own choices. When the judicial courts order a seed donor (father) to pay a set amount for his children, this is beginning of a lot of things, or often is the only way a child knows of his father. This isn't fair to the child, who gets caught in the cross fire of disputing adults. When "some" men pay child support, they feel that this is a justifiable substitute for not spending time with a child. Quite honestly, some women make it difficult for the man. Now, I know that this isn't popular with some women, but it is the truth. If the man moves on with his life, some women get bitter, when she is still in love with him. She will make his life hell, and the children suffer. Back to the question or topic, "When Child Support Isn't Enough". I see women saying "Happy Father's Day" each other. YOU ARE NOT A FATHER! YOU are a very special woman! Stop fooling yourself, just to elevate the personal image and perception of yourself. I remember my mother saying that all she wanted was my father to spend time with my brother and me. She placed her values in the time, instead of the money. My father paid child support and was on us like white on rice. Once when he lost his job, she didn't want him to stop coming around because lack of the money. He paid what he could and was our FATHER. Now let’s be truthful and digest a bit of reality. Sometimes the child support just isn't enough, when the child is active OR the father doesn't make much money. Then we have the men, who duck and dodge ANY job not paying under the table. We are being REAL here! It happens. The beef that I have is when a mother, receiving child support, uses ANY portion of that to pay HER bills.
YEAH, I DON'T agree with any court ordered money being used to get nails done or to pay some of that car note. It is no longer the guy's responsibility to take care of the ex/mother. Now I realize that every situation is different, and a lot factors are in play. I realize that I won't be popular with some, but that's ok. Here is why, I see too many children lacking, but her hair is done! When men see this and can't do anything about it, they stop being fathers. Is it fair or right, NO! I WISH some PARENTS realized that the child support just isn’t enough!! I DON'T care if you don't get along; STOP making those children suffer because your ignorant behinds can't be adult NOW. BUT you were "ADULTS" when you boning or getting boned! Every culture suffers because of the selfishness and immaturity of ignorant people. When are we going to stop generational curses and the lack of true love for children? You don't have to be together to be GOOD PARENTS! If you can moan together, you can work together. Men, if you are MAN enough to insert your magic stick into that woman, be MAN enough to insert your presence into the life of the seed, which you planted. Women, if that man has moved on and wants to be a presence in your child's life, LET HIM. Get passed your hurt feelings and damaged emotions, AND then stop thinking about yourself!
The truth is that sometimes CHILD SUPPORT JUST ISN'T ENOUGH!~INK-HEART
Saturday, August 27, 2011
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